Tuesday, February 17, 2009

A small good thing..what's small or good about it?

Okay, I remeber reading this during my observation period in one of the English classes. I kept thinking, God, what an awful story. those poor people lose their boy and if someone would have reacted a little bit sooner, maybe(probably) it could've been prevented. Not that I'm a fan of this litigitous society that we live in, but somewhere in the back of my head I'm thinking someone bears some responsibility in all of this.

I suppose I'm a little reactionary, but I am a mama and I would be paralyzed by an event like this. I suppose if I think on it a little more, I imagine any parent would feel the same. It would be so hard to accept the death of a child. My husband just lost his 26 year old daughter and I just don't know how he gets up in the morning. He hasn't been able to go to the cemetary yet, and over the weekend we went to our storage unit and, of course, some of her stuff was in there, so he had a really hard time getting through the rest of the day. He's not a sobber , but it definitely affected him.

I thought the parents were a little wierd, the mother seemed to be content to wait for the Doctors to sort of plod along. I try not to be a "heli-mom" and hover over everyone, but I think I would've been a little more proactive. I suppose hind sight is 20/20. It's easy to be an armchair quaterback when you're not in the game. The other side of that coin is that I would hate to second guess the doctors. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say. I guess losing a child would pretty much incapacitate me. I suppose the parents reaction was what they could handle at the time?

I was a little confused about the baker's phone calls. I mean, what was the purpose? I guess he was annoyed because he thought they stiffed him on the cake, but prank phone calls just seem a little juvenile to me. Maybe he should've sent them a bill anyway, and when he found out about the circumstances he could've just forgiven the bill. that's probably not the best way to run a business. I suppose the parents could've blown the bill off..I don't know. I think this story left me with more questions than answers...obviously it did. I actually feel like less of a "reader" after reading it..does that make sense? Did any of you get this feeling? I hope I can make sense of the rest of the stories. You guys might be in for a pretty long discussion forum while you try to explain everything to me. I'll have to go back and read your posts, and then try a re-reading of the story....

1 comment:

  1. Maybe that's Carver's thing, to leave us questioning.

    I am sorry for your loss, and hope everyone can make it through this. It's hard and there are no words to make it better, ever.

    The catharsis of your ex going through the storage unit is reminiscent of the father in the story going through the living room and putting Scotty's toys in a box. Maybe that's the point, to recognize and validate these types oh human moments in print.

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